From Homecoming Prince to Killer: How Parental Social Media Monitoring Could Have Stopped This Tragedy

10712810_583333025104732_5160191985607443984_nI thought about this post for a while before committing to it because some of the victims are still fighting for their lives.  It wasn’t until I took the time to find and read Mr. Fyberg’s tweets that I decided this was an important topic to discuss.  The reason I’m posting about this is not to glorify school shootings because I can’t really think of anything more frightening for students and parents to endure.  When you drop you child off at school, you have a sense that you are leaving them in a safe haven and that you will see them later on that day.  For that to be shattered by news of a gunman posing imminent danger is nightmare that I would never want to live out and shatters my believe in school safety when I think about how many parents have had to live out that nightmare.

I have a niece who is about the same age as the kids involved in yesterday’s school shooting and I’m constantly reading her Facebook posts.  Her parents and I now no longer speak because of my warnings to them about her social media activities and their belief that their angel can do no wrong, so there’s really nothing I can do while reading the disturbing posts.  In the last month I’ve seen her profess her love to over 10 different boys and cry about each of them after they dumped her.  I’ve snooped through some of the boys pages and watched how they changed their relationship status to involve a new girl ever other day.  Some would say this is just kids being kids, but when one of those boys is 22 years old claiming to be in love with my 14-year-old niece, I have to cry foul.  After reading shooter Jaylen’s tweets I noticed the same pattern.  Children acting like adults in a setting without supervision, not understanding the adult emotional consequences of their actions.


What I discovered in these tweets is that the shooting was the result over a fight over a girl.  Had parents been monitoring their kids social media interactions they might have seen something like this coming.  There used to be a time when would encourage our girls to take relationships seriously and not to jump from guy to guy, and not to trust boys who ran through girlfriends like box of tissues during flu season.  As parents we used to be able to keep track of this by how many times the phone rang or how many times someone knocked at the door.  Now with social media, kids are running a muck and no one is there to say, “Stop!”  There is no dialog on the emotions that come with sexual relationships, so we can’t expect our kids to figure it out on their own. We have to intercede through social media and force them to come clean about their interactions.  This is no longer an issue of privacy.  If your kid wanted privacy they wouldn’t be telling the world what they’re doing every minute of the day on twitter.  So snoop parents!!!  Read what they’re saying and confront their behavior daily.  Ask them what these emoji’s mean and what their cryptic status posts are about.  Sexting is just serious as sex.  While it might not be a cause of pregnancy or STD’s it still has an effect on mental health.  Times are changing, teen/child interactions are changing, and we need to change with them. Add them on Facebook, follow them on Instagram and Twitter, keep up with them on Kick and Snapchat, and monitor them on social media.

If you’re asking yourself why Jaylen Fryberg didn’t fit the profile for most school shooters, it’s because he could have just as well been your child.  His actions were the result emotions he couldn’t handle, triggered by interactions he wasn’t mature enough to be practicing.  Close parental supervision could have kept this tragedy from happening.  As parents, let’s vow to get more involved with our children, and keep this from happening again.

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Mama June’s Chester Molested Her Daughter

Anna_Chickadee_Honey_Boo_Boo-490x277And the backwoods saga continues!!! So, I have heard from a reliable source that the man “Mama June” is reportedly dating, Mark McDaniel, was actually convicted for molesting her own daughter known as “Chickadee” on the show when she was just 8 years old.  “Chickadee” now 20 years old and with a child of her own actually believed her mother when she first claimed to not be in a relationship with McDaniel, as she has taken to social media today to also claim to the public and her fans.  But now after coming across factual evidence, “Chickadee” is singing a different tune and speaking out after the hurt of betrayal from her mother.  TLC has reportedly reached out to the young lady and offered her counseling, but they are going to have a lot more to answer for as this story progresses.    05-honey-boo-boo-christmas

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Mama June and The Chester

article-2202900-150178BB000005DC-388_634x451As if people didn’t question the integrity of the “Boo Boo Household” before, NOW Mama June is entertaining the company of the family Chester.  You know, Chester the Child Molester?  I’m not sure why people are shocked by this information because let’s be honest, the show really mocks her parenting style.  I personally never watched the show because I’ve never been in favor of laughing in someones face while making them believe you’re laughing with them, and not at them.

I used to feel sorry for Mama June, but in light of this new information I’m just plain disgusted.  To find out that your significant other has molested a child should make you question your choice in partners.  But to return to that partner after he/she has been convicted of the crime AND have young children of your own in the home makes you just as criminal as they are.  Might as well put make up on them, dress them up like a grown woman, and serve them on platter.  Yeah, I said that.  I will not pass judgement on this mother for her child rearing techniques, but I will call for her to get a mental health evaluation for even wanting this Chester around her children.  I understand that her excessive weight might come with self-esteem issues, but that’s no excuse for putting your children in danger and there’s no question that this man and his past are a danger to her children.  I certainly see no end in sight to this story in near future and I wouldn’t be surprised if Child Protective Services gets involved. TLC would be wise to cancel the show. Especially if Mama June insists on defending this relationship as she has been.  I’ve never understood a woman that chooses a man over her child and sure as hell don’t understand this one.  Get it together Mama June!!!!

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Introducing Real Recipes

168526_1268791977403_4621875_nThere’s more to come but I thought I’d start sharing Recipes!!!!  So come check out the new page!!!!!

Real Recipes

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All Are Things That My Children Do

Things children do that are unacceptable for adults to do
Things children do that are unacceptable for adults to do

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Toy’s R Us and Blue Meth

1825-Toys-Us-pulls-Breaking-Bad-dollsOk, so the bag of blue meth is a bit excessive for a toy, but I still love Walter White.  Is this a show that I sit down and enjoy with my children?  Hell no.  So do I want to see it in a store where I shop for my kids Christmas toys?  Double Hell No.  While I understand that Toy’s R Us sells a variety of toys there are some toys that just don’t promote a “Kid being a kid”.  I can’t believe that the corporation is defending itself by releasing the statement, ‘The product packaging clearly notes that the items are intended for ages 15 and up’ and ‘are located in the adult action figure area of our stores’.  Yeah, ok.  So are you trying to tell my teenager that it’s ok to manufacture and sell meth now?  Bad form Toy’s R Us.  You need to leave this COLLECTIBLE doll to the Comic book stores and stop trying to do anything for a dollar.  Seriously, I’m disappointed in you.  This should have never been an issue, but I’m happy that you’ve decided to pull it from your selves.

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Shut Up and Take My Money Now!!!!

o-PHOTOMATH-570Ever get stumped while helping your kids with their math homework.  Well say GOODBYE to the days of hearing the age-old argument, “But that’s not how my teacher told me to do it!!!” and say HELLO to, “So what, I’m right, here’s the proof.”

Yes, I plan on downloading this one for my own continuing education as I’m currently struggling through a Pych Statistics Research course, but when the time comes, I will be blocking this from my kid’s phone and using it only on my own.  Parents you might want to follow suit.  I completely agree with naysayers against this products who believe that this will teach kids to cut corners and not learn the math processes on their own.  And while we live in a world of computers that do all the hard work for us, there is no guarantee that the world will always work this way.  So if your kid comes home and is suddenly a math rock star, you might want to check their phone for this app before throwing them a ticker tape parade.


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